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001FIELD GUIDE / WHAT WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVEAttraction beyond tricksAttraction is more complicated than a haircut, a decent jacket and one heroic opening line. Start with the qualities that make people enjoyable to spend time with: interest in…↗002FIELD GUIDE / SIGNS SHE LIKES YOUInterest or just friendly?A warm smile is lovely. It is not a signed declaration of romantic intent, old boy. Look at patterns of interest and whether the connection goes both ways, rather than treating…↗003FIELD GUIDE / CONFIDENCE AND SHYNESSConfidence without an actYou do not need to become the loudest man in the room. The quiet bloke who listens well, knows what he enjoys and can make an ordinary conversation pleasant has plenty going for…↗004FIELD GUIDE / FLIRTING AND BANTERPlayful conversationsGood flirting feels like a conversation with a little sparkle, not a performance from a bloke who memorised thirty-seven lines on the bus. Pay attention, be warm, and let the…↗005FIELD GUIDE / MEETING WOMEN OFFLINEMeeting women in real lifeThere is life beyond endlessly swiping at your phone, and rather a lot of it takes place in rooms where people share interests. Meeting somebody naturally becomes easier when you…↗006FIELD GUIDE / ASKING HER OUTFrom interest to invitationThe perfect invitation is usually the simple one. You have enjoyed a conversation, you think the interest may be mutual, and you would like to see her again. No elaborate scheme…↗007FIELD GUIDE / ONLINE DATING PROFILESProfiles, matches and first messagesYour profile should give somebody a reason to start a conversation with the real you. Not the imagined millionaire with a yacht, unless there is in fact a yacht parked behind…↗008FIELD GUIDE / TEXTING WOMENTexting without the gamesA text message is not a chess move, old boy. The goal is to communicate, not to win an elaborate contest over who can leave the other person waiting longest.↗009FIELD GUIDE / FIRST DATESFirst dates that feel naturalA first date is a chance to discover whether you enjoy each other's company, not a final interview for the post of Soulmate. Pick a place where conversation is easy, turn up on…↗010FIELD GUIDE / SECOND DATES AND EARLY DATINGFrom first date to connectionOne pleasant evening is a good start. It is not a promise of everlasting romance, nor does it need to be. The next few dates are about finding out whether you connect when the…↗011FIELD GUIDE / DATING IN YOUR 30S, 40S AND 50SDating later in lifeDating at 35, 45 or 55 does not have to be an attempt to recreate your twenties with better trousers. You already have experiences, preferences and a clearer idea of what fits…↗012FIELD GUIDE / MIXED SIGNALS AND DISINTERESTClarity over guessing gamesFew hobbies are less productive than trying to decode an uninterested person's punctuation. Sometimes a conversation changes pace for ordinary reasons. Sometimes the interest…↗013FIELD GUIDE / DATING BOUNDARIES AND MISTAKESHealthy modern datingCharm is worth very little without respect. Good boundaries make dating more comfortable for both people: you know what is okay for you, and you give the other person the same…↗
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